Generally speaking I don't keep grudges and am usually calm and don't take what people say personally. With few exceptions people mean well and don't intend to insult your intelligence when they give you advice. They want to help you and while sometimes it can be irritating to have to explain yourself to them, they genuinely mean well.
Like everyone else I have my own share of pet peeves. I don't like it when I can't tag mobs on an open hunt because they die too quickly. I don't like it when I can't hit anything despite all of the Atkus I've trained. I don't like it when I'm traveling with people and they disappear which leads me to be either lost or trying to find them.
Yet tonight's open hunt has to be the most irritating I've ever been on with regards to pet peeves.
Daimoth invited me to a Metz hunt which surprised me a little since I don't know why he'd want me along when he knows so many exiles who are much stronger than I am. Not having much of an opportunity to go to Metz (at least as Jeanne, Moon Kitty has gone there many more times than I have) I leaped at the chance and quickly traveled there.
Everything went relatively smoothly as we traveled in the jungle areas and I quickly found myself underpowered. I managed to avoid falling too many times (I hope) and killed or vanquished everything I was able to hit. I think that if I wanted to contribute to any future hunt that comes here I'd need to have much better Bloodmage skills. My 400 Atkus was able to hit the small cats reliably but anything else and it was down to luck. Fortunately I was able to get quite a few vanquishes which pleased me. The variety of beasts in the Metz jungles is truly impressive. I'll bet Rangers love it there with so many powerful morphs accessible to them.
The real problem came when the fighters got into a circle to share since a healer left. You all know how unlike a circle these fighter circles usually are. So after a bit, which turned out to be less than a minute, I helpfully told the fighter that they were my share. I meant nothing bad about this. I just wanted to be helpful in case they didn't realize I was who they were supposed to be sharing with.
KABOOM
That was basically the reaction from the fighter. First he told me who I should be sharing with which I didn't connect to what I told him so I admit to getting a little testy. Why was he telling me who to share when I've been doing that since the start? Then he admitted it was in response to me telling him to share me and he went off on a diatribe which mostly didn't make much sense. In the end, before I ignored him, he suggested that I spend some time in the library and find out who I'm hunting with.
On the one hand I can agree with that advice. Knowing the strengths and weaknesses of those I hunt with helps the hunt. If a person is a good brick I know to dump stuff on them. If a person wants to get lasts on a certain mob then I know not to attack when it's red. If a person hasn't tagged I'll pull them so they get a chance. If a person is a Bloodmage I try to make sure they have room to retreat when necessary. It's all part of a good hunt strategy and something you can find out by just paying attention and asking questions. Quite often the person will volunteer such information, especially if you haven't spent much or any time around them.
But good grief, how am I supposed to know about someone's pet peeves if they don't let me know about them? I don't agree with Lorikeet's and Desdemona's pet peeve against being pulled, especially when it's useful in not falling or when they might be in the path of danger or when it's simply the fastest way of getting around. At least they didn't jump down my throat when I did it. It almost makes me sorry for refusing to go along with it since I will pull them if I deem it necessary.
Yet this fighter simply went unhinged. I didn't tell them to share me because I thought they were incapable of reading or they didn't know what CW (clockwise) meant. I was just trying to be helpful and he took it as an insult. I didn't need to be verbally assaulted for thinkto after thinkto after thinkto about how awful I was. How was I supposed to know that he'd take what I said so personally? How is staying in the library going to teach me about who I'm hunting with?
So please, if someone says something or does something that pushes one of your buttons and you're ready to unleash all of your anger towards him take a step back and realize that they probably didn't say that to mock you. They probably were just trying to be helpful and don't deserve you raking them over the coals. No one does.
P.S. I stopped training with Swengus because, after seeing Stinkfist in action with his awesome Bloodmage skills, I want to be just as powerful as he is sooner rather than later. I'll get Swengus up to 1000 eventually but my balance situation is pretty good (2 swings with a 3rd a second later). It'll be a long time before I can become a good and useful Bloodmage but at least I'm heading down that path now. I just could really use more reliable hunts. The library just isn't helpful anymore.